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Dispatches from Glasgow
Notes on distance, and building a game about it.
Product updates, long-distance research, and the occasional argument about whether streaks are healthy. Written by the two people making KTL.
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Is it normal to be on FaceTime all day with your partner?
Leaving a video call running all day can be lovely, or a habit neither of you can hang up on. How to tell which, and what enough looks like.
How to feel closer to your long-distance partner this week
Feeling close at a distance comes from being known and being noticed. A seven-day plan of small, specific things to try, starting tonight.
I love them, but I can’t do long distance: how to decide
Loving someone and not coping with the distance can both be true. Seven honest questions to help you decide whether to stay, change something, or end it.
Long-distance marriage with kids: keeping two homes close
When one parent lives or works away, the marriage and the kids both feel it. Practical ways to keep the couple and the family close across the miles.
Closing the distance: the move and the first three months
Moving to the same city is the goal, and it's also a turning point. How to plan the move, and what the first three months tend to throw at you.
Long distance after uni: graduating to different cities
Graduating and heading to different cities? What changes when long distance outlasts uni, and how to plan visits, money and a date to aim for.
International long-distance relationships from the UK
A plain-English guide for UK couples with a partner abroad: visitor rules, marrying or moving, flights, time zones, and where the official answers live.
Cheap ways to visit your long-distance partner in the UK
Railcards that take a third off, Advance fares, split tickets, coachcards and free bus travel in Scotland. How to see each other more often for less.
Making a 12-hour time difference work: UK and Australia
The UK and eastern Australia are 9 to 11 hours apart, never quite 12. The real gap through the year, the best times to call, and the out-of-step weekend.
Do long-distance relationships work at uni? What actually helps
Often, yes, and they're more common than first year makes them feel. What the research says, why term time is tricky, and how to get through it apart.
Long-distance birthday ideas for your girlfriend or boyfriend
Birthday ideas for a long-distance girlfriend or boyfriend: what to send so it arrives on time, how to share the day on a call, and ideas for when you're skint.
How to surprise your long-distance partner with a visit
How to pull off a surprise visit to your long-distance partner, from the accomplice to the doorstep, and the times a surprise is a bad idea.
Long-distance feelings fading: what’s normal and what isn’t
Feelings fading in a long-distance relationship is common and often temporary. The usual reasons, what's worth worrying about, and what to try first.
Arguing over text: how long-distance couples fight fair
Fighting in a long-distance relationship is normal. Fighting over text is where it goes wrong. How to argue fairly when you can't be in the same room.
Military long-distance relationships: deployment and silence
For partners of people in the UK Armed Forces. Keeping in touch on deployment, getting through the silence, and the support you can actually use.
Scheduling calls across time zones without resenting it
The calendar settings, call routine and clock-change plan that stop long-distance calls across a time difference turning into a quiet grudge.
How to stop slowly drifting apart in a long-distance relationship
Drifting apart rarely happens in one go. How to spot the slow slide early, talk about it without a row, and rebuild the small daily stuff together.
Long-distance anniversary ideas for when you can’t be together
How to mark an anniversary from different places: ideas built on your own story, things to do on the day, and a proper look back at the year.
Post-visit depression in long distance: why goodbyes hit so hard
That flat, heavy feeling after a goodbye has a name. Why the comedown hits so hard, how to plan around it, and when it's more than the blues.
First meeting with your long-distance partner: a checklist
What to sort before you book, before you travel, on the day and in the first few days of meeting your long-distance partner in person.
Is it normal to overthink in a long-distance relationship?
Yes, and distance makes it louder. Why it happens, how to spot the spiral, how to stop reading into every reply, and when to talk to someone.
How to watch films together long distance without the faff
The tools that sync Netflix, Disney+, Prime Video and YouTube for couples apart, what each one needs, and the no-app method that always works.
Long-distance Valentine’s Day ideas beyond a card in the post
Valentine's apart doesn't need a grand gesture. Ideas that arrive, things to do together on the day, and how to handle a time difference.
Long-distance partner asking for money? How to spot a scam
The warning signs of a romance scam, how to check who you're really talking to, and exactly what to do and who to call if money has already gone.
How often should long-distance couples see each other?
There's no magic number of visits. How to work out a rhythm you can both afford, who should travel, and why the next date matters more than the gap.
Spending Christmas apart from your partner
The hardest fortnight of the long-distance year, and what actually helps.
UK and USA long-distance relationships: time zones and visits
The real UK and USA time gaps, the weeks the clocks don't match in 2027, ESTA and ETA basics for visits, and how to make long-haul trips less brutal.
Love languages when you are long distance
Two of the five do not survive the distance at all. Here is what to do about the other three.
Lonely in a long-distance relationship? What actually helps
Feeling lonely in a long-distance relationship is normal, even when it's going well. Which kind of lonely it is, and how to get through the quiet nights.
Red flags in a long-distance relationship
Including the ones that get mistaken for devotion.
Green flags in a long-distance relationship
The quiet signs it is working, most of which look like nothing from the outside.
Why good morning texts start to feel empty (and what helps)
The good morning text still arrives every day, it just stopped meaning much. Why daily rituals go hollow when you live apart, and how to put something back.
Feeling disconnected from your long-distance partner?
Still talking every day but feeling miles apart? Nine common reasons a long-distance relationship starts to feel disconnected, and one thing to try for each.
Things to do when your long-distance partner visits
A visit carries weeks of waiting, so it's easy to overplan. What to actually do together, what to skip, and how to stop the goodbye eating the last day.
They still reply, but they never text first. What it means
Replying and starting aren't the same thing. What it usually means when only one of you ever starts the conversation, and how to raise it without a row.
Long distance in different time zones: how to make it work
Find your overlap, stop losing sleep, and get through the weeks the clocks change. A practical guide for couples living hours apart, with dated tables.
How often should long-distance couples text? The honest answer
There's no magic number of texts a day. There's a ten-minute conversation that sorts it, plus a few signs your rhythm has stopped fitting.
Nothing to talk about in a long-distance relationship? Try this
Running out of things to say is normal. It usually means your chats have turned into daily reports. Here's how to swap reporting for sharing.
Long-distance relationship ideas that are not another video call
Things to do together from two timezones, none of which involve staring at each other on mute.
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